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– A postpartum therapist in the Bay Area noted that partners working in AI are often emotionally and mentally unavailable due to being consumed by their work.
– The AI industry’s volatility and competitive job market cause stress on marriages and families, especially when people lose jobs or struggle to enter the field.
– Some individuals feel disappointment or failure if they cannot get into the AI industry, adding emotional labor beyond the long work hours.
– The allure of generational wealth from early entry into AI labs creates a pervasive belief among engineers that they could become multimillionaires.
– The phenomenon affects people across the economic spectrum in the Bay Area, including students and job seekers facing a tough market.
Every week was their Super Bowl, as one participant put it. That level of intensity defines the current AI boom, but it’s not just about the technology. It’s about the people living through it, often at great personal cost.
Zoë Schiffer agreed, noting how the framing of caring for a literal human child versus nurturing an AI tool captured the passion on both sides. Alessandra Ram observed the trend firsthand, not just in herself but in her social circle. When she mentioned it to her therapist, the therapist interrupted, asking what her partner did. Upon learning he worked in AI, the therapist called it a phenomenon. Based in the Bay Area with a postpartum clientele, she sees many women partnered with tech workers, especially those in AI. The emotional and mental unavailability caused by total immersion in work is straining relationships.
Brian Barrett pointed out another layer from the story: It’s not only those obsessed with AI but also those who’ve washed out or failed to break in. That disappointment carries its own emotional weight, alongside the literal labor of long hours. How widespread is this?
Ram acknowledged that some might view this as a privileged perspective, but in the Bay Area, it hits across the economic spectrum. Students graduating into a volatile job market feel it acutely. The AI industry itself is unstable, with people losing jobs or fighting for highly competitive positions. The promise of high salaries and economic success creates immense pressure on marriages and families. When one partner loses an AI job or desperately tries to land one, the stress is real. The underlying belief: AI is the key to financial freedom, even riches.
Schiffer added a second dimension. While some are genuinely excited by technological breakthroughs and the feeling of superpowers from using agents, there’s another factor. In the Bay Area, a notable number of people have made generational wealth in the last six years. The idea that someone who got in early, perhaps just lucky, is now a multimillionaire fuels a pervasive belief: That could be me. Especially for engineers, that possibility feels tantalizingly close.
(Source: Wired)
